D. A. Carson, Love in Hard Places
(Wheaton: Crossway, 2002), pp. 52–57 (numbering added):
Not all Christians face persecuting enemies, but all Christians face little enemies. We encounter people whose personality we intensely dislike—
- an obstreperous deacon or warden or bishop;
- a truly revolting relative;
- an employee or employer who specializes in insensitivity, rudeness, and general arrogance;
- a business competitor more unscrupulous, not to say more profitable, than you are;
- the teenager whose boorishness is exceeded only by his or her unkemptness;
- the elderly duffers who persist in making the same querulous demands whenever you are in a hurry;
- the teachers who are so intoxicated by their own learning that they forget they are first of all called to teach students, not a subject;
- the students so impressed by their own ability or (if they come from certain cultures) so terrified by the shame of a low grade that they whine and wheedle for an “A” they have not earned;
- people with whom you have differed on some point of principle who take all differences in a deeply personal way and who nurture bitterness for decades, stroking their own self-righteousness and offended egos as they go;
- insecure little people who resent and try to tear down those who are even marginally more competent than they;
- the many who lust for power and call it principle;
- the arrogant who are convinced of their own brilliance and of the stupidity of everyone else.
The list is easily enlarged. [Read more…] about Loving People You Don’t Like