This 11-page chapter (available for free as a PDF) concisely and convincingly explains why the phrase “mutual submission” is unhelpful at best:
Wayne Grudem, “The Myth of Mutual Submission as an Interpretation of Ephesians 5:21,” in Biblical Foundations for Manhood and Womanhood (ed. Wayne Grudem; Foundations for the Family Series; Wheaton: Crossway, 2002), 221–31.
- An Acceptable Sense of Mutual Submission
- Objections to the Egalitarian Sense of Mutual Submission
- The following context specifies the kind of submission Paul has in mind.
- The absence of any command for husbands to submit to wives
- The meaning of “be subject to” (hypotassō)
- The lack of evidence for the egalitarian meaning of hypotassō
- The meaning of “one another”
- The meaning of Colossians 3:18, Titus 2:5, and 1 Peter 3:1
- Practical Application
(The entire book is available for free as a PDF.)