Crossway has just published a provocative book:
Baucham explains what this book is about (p. 9):
My desire in this book is to kill two birds with one stone. First, I want to lay out a clear, balanced, realistic, biblical picture of what moms and dads should be looking for on behalf of their daughters and seeking to produce in their sons. . . .
In addition, I want to provide a road map for men who have a desire to lead their families biblically but simply do not know how.
He concludes (p. 206),
I intend to walk my daughter down the aisle one day. When I do, the minister is going to ask, “Who gives this woman to be married?” If I am going to answer, “I do” with a clear conscience, then I simply have no choice but to invest significant time into vetting any potential suitor. I cannot give my approval of a man whom God’s Word disqualifies. I love my daughter too much. I love my grandchildren too much. But most importantly, I love my Lord too much to settle for less.
The book is provocative in at least two ways: content and tone.
- Content: Baucham holds no punches when he describes what he thinks biblical manhood involves.
- Tone: Baucham is bold, confident, and direct. This is often refreshing, but to people in some contexts, this dogmatism will not be well received.
- Baucham explains his view of “multigenerational legacy.” He has a very strong testimony after coming out of a legacy of fatherlessness in the black community.
- He discusses the importance of marriage, addressing the parents’ responsibility to train their children for marriage. He compares it to the way parents prepare their children for academic success.
- He attacks traditional dating and argues for courtship.
- He argues that a marriageable man must be committed to “having children,” “investing in children,” and “supporting children” (pp. 123–38).
- He challenges fathers to protect their daughters’ purity, heart, focus, future spouse, and hope (pp. 159–75).
- He is more interested in finding “God’s man” than a black man for his daughter (p. 204). His sound discussion of racism with reference to marriage (pp. 195–205) disapprovingly quotes John R. Rice and mentions Bob Jones University’s former ban on “interracial” dating (p. 200).
- He criticizes Sarah Palin’s VP run (p. 92).
- He positively quotes Charles Finney, the Pelagian false teacher (p. 24).
- His tone can sound like “We must reclaim traditional American values!” rather than “We must be gospel-centered!”
I’ll send a free book to the two fathers with the most unmarried daughters. Just reply in the comments by 9 PM EST on March 3.