- “personal hardwiring that the Creator has formed in each of us”
- “viewpoints, instincts, and tastes that have been formed in us through the experiential, cultural, and relational influences that we have lived in and which have formed the way we see the world and respond to it”
- “personal sin and weakness” and “our growth in grace”
Paul Tripp lists those “tools of difference” with reference to marriage, but they apply more broadly to any relationship (What Did You Expect? Redeeming the Realities of Marriage , p. 215).